Happy Thanksgiving

We are to give thanks to God for all He has done for us this season and over the course of our lives. The holidays mark the end of a year and the beginning of a new one. We will celebrate family, friends, and loved ones. There is so much to be thankful for. Many people that started this year with us are no longer here. God has carried us through the year. He has covered all the circumstances we faced and even those we are still facing. You are not alone on this journey called life. God is our fortress. He is our solid foundation.

Sometimes it’s hard to be thankful when we are faced with unfortunate circumstances during the holidays. I know this all too well because two years ago I spent the holidays in the hospital. I brought the new year in while being in the hospital. I thought God where are you? I thought He had forgotten all about me. I will not take the holidays for granted. Being with those you love during this season is a gift. No matter what you are facing this holiday season God has not forgotten about you.

The seasons come and the seasons go but God always remains. We change as we should but God remains constant and consistent. His grace and mercy are always with us. As we celebrate with big, small, or even alone remember God is with you. Let’s be thankful for all He has brought us through down through the years.

I hope you fill your hearts with gratitude and your bellies with delicious food. I wish all my blog readers a blessed holiday season. Remember you can face anything with God.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Resilient Inspired Spiritual Excellence

Shakera Williams

Cloud of Pain

The clouds of pain held so much hurt that it seemed to always be storming in her world

Pain etched in her mind was as deadly as the tornadoes that came through tornado alley

She tried to remove herself from the hurt

Then the clouds brought the rain of trauma unresolved

What do you do when hurt seems to be the language you are most comfortable speaking

Words could never describe how deep the pain goes in the lives of traumatized women across thee globe.

Some would say get over it is the fix for the pain

The truth is healing is a process and the mindset about one’s self and the identity found in the pain must change.

The cloud of pain won’t remain a cloud if we learn to release the hurt and allow God to do the healing.

The pain etched in her mind and your mind would change, and you can heal from the cloud of pain.

Poem by: Shakera Williams

You Can’t Buy God

There is no amount of money you can tithe or give that can buy God into blessing you. God is in charge of it all. He allows us the blessing to acquire the material things of this world. He also gives us the free gift of His redemptive love. He does not need our money to bless us.

“And God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work. God provides for those who give.

Many people believe that if they can’t afford to pay tithes they are cursed or condemned and this is not true. Thinking that way is a form of bondage. God never intended for us to be bound to anything but a free relationship with Him.

You can’t out-give God. God is in charge of all things. His word says “And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:19). It does not say I will supply all your needs as long as you tithe or as long as you do this or that. That shows us God will provide for us no matter what. He will provide when can afford to tithe and give an offering and even when we can’t. God blesses us according to His divine plan for our lives.

As we prepare for the holiday season remember being thankful or giving thanks to the One who paid it all. Also, the reason for the season is Jesus. We should live a life that glorifies God even when we give. There will always be seasons of abundance and seasons where there is a struggle. Our word teaches us that life is full of varying seasons. We see in God’s word where lands were plentiful and then we see droughts or famine. Stop thinking you have to buy God’s love or blessings that is not true. God’s love and blessings are free.

God sent Jesus to pay it all so we would not have to. You can’t deed your way into heaven. God divinely predestined us into the heavenly royal priesthood. You can’t buy a ticket. You can’t give your way in. You can’t tithe your way in. It is God who divinely calls those to be saved.

There is nothing wrong with tithing and giving an offering. There is nothing wrong with being a giver. The key is being balanced and understanding that you can’t buy God. God calls us and when He does no amount of money or lack thereof changes that.

The Power of Patience and Silence


We live in a world full of noise and urgency. Most of the world never settles down on a day-to-day basis. We are all glued to our many devices. There was a time when the world was more settled and somewhat quieter. We have evolved as a global world and now it seems eerie to sit in silence unbothered by noise and technology.

It is as if we are bothered by the silence within us and ensuring our innermost being is doing well. If someone asked you if you were okay and really wanted to know what would you say? Have you checked in with yourself lately? Has the busy world blinded the inner you?

There is a lot to be said about silence and how powerful it is. When Jesus was getting ready to endure his crucifixion He said “Your will not mind”. When he was put on trial He said “It is as you say” (Matthew 26:64).

“And the high priest stood up in the midst and asked Jesus, saying, “Do You answer nothing? What is it these men testify against You?” But He kept silent and answered nothing.

Again the high priest asked Him, saying to Him, “Are You the Christ, the Son of the Blessed?”

Jesus said, “I am. And you will see the Son of Man sitting at the right hand of the Power, and coming with the clouds of heaven (Mark 14: 60-62).”

Yes, Jesus was talking but it was the little He said on matters that were important and that were life-changing. We live in a world where everyone wants to be heard. Also, everyone has something to say. There are so many voices around us and within us, it can be hard to know what decisions to make.

Jesus knew the road He was called to travel. He said very little and faced what was ahead. He faced it with the assurance that His calling was too great to be busy having so much to say.

There have been times in my life when God required me to be silent and obedient. It was usually times when I needed Him to move on a situation I had gotten myself into or I needed a prayer answered. So many times in life we miss hearing God because we silence His voice. We silence Him to listen to the voices of those who are limited in helping us.

I learned the hard way that God calls us to be obedient and it is a command, not a choice. The more silent you are and have an urgency to listen to God the better it is. It is important to follow His guidance more often than not, it makes life easier.

Jesus was called and anointed to endure the cross and He understood what He was assigned to do. Do you understand the call on your life and what God may be calling you to do? Are you taking the necessary quiet time to listen to God?


“rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer”; (Romans 12:12).

Will you be patient in the storms of life? I have learned that making rash decisions due to being impatient only makes the storms we face worse. We often learn hard lessons when we don’t seek godly counsel. It is far better to wait to hear clearly from God. Patience is hard in this fast-paced world we are living in.

Everybody wants to be an instant star but the truth is everybody can’t be an instant star. Sometimes you are called to do God’s work on a smaller scale but you are still being used by God. I would rather live my calling no matter how small it may seem compared to others. This is represents maturity rather than missing God and losing my eternal rewards. I want to be doing what God requires of me.

The next time you have the urge to tell someone off, because you are upset ask God what will be the costs.

When you are seeking to run through life, without checking in on your spiritual health, remember God needs time with us. I do not care how busy the world gets, we must make time with God a priority.

Praise is What We are Called To Do

“But the hour is coming, and now is, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for the Father is seeking such to worship Him. God is spirit, and those who worship Him must worship Him in spirit and truth” (John 4:23-24).

“Make a joyful shout to the Lord, all you lands! Serve the Land with gladness; Come before His presence with singing. Know that the Lord, He is God; It is He who made us, and not we ourselves. We are His people, the sheep of His pasture. Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, And into His courts with praise. Be thankful to Him and bless His name” (Psalm 100:1-4).

We are called to worship God. It is what we do to honor Him. Our praises to the King of kings and Lord of lords is our way of giving the Highest of high thanks for all He has done for us. We go into the house of God and we are to offer up our praises and worship to Him. There are no perfect churches because there are no perfect people, but when you find a church where you can worship and be accepted you have found a church home.

Some people find it hard to lower themselves or submit to praise and worship. When we worship it is not about us but it is all about God. We are allowing His holy spirit to flow through us as believers. I am not perfect and I deal with a lot of shame and guilt because of the mental health challenges I face. When I worship God He does not see any of that. He sees me in submission to Him and offering up praises to Him and no matter how other people see it God accepts our praises.

Remember, He does not need perfection and with God, it is all about our heart. If our heart is in the right place the rest will follow. That was satan’s problem he was too full of pride to submit to God and for that, he was cast out of heaven.

A songwriter wrote, “praise is what I do when I want to be close to you”. This is true when we worship and praise God we feel His spirit within us and we often feel closer to God. When you enter the church and it’s time for worship remember you are offering up your worship to God. You are allowing Him to be glorified.

There are seasons in our lives where what we need to do more than anything is praise God. Do not wait until the prayer has been answered to praise God. Praise in spite of what you see. Praise because you are thanking God that you will get the victory. We owe God our praise. No need to hold back because when God answers our prayers He is not slack. He answers them with our cup always running over.

Those who believe in God understand the value of praise especially if you have ever needed God to bring you out of a circumstance that was bigger than you. Praise is our way of saying to God “I thank you” or “God I love you”. It takes us into a deeper relationship with God. It took me a while to understand praise is for me and God. It allows me to release the things I am holding and it allows God to be glorified.

No matter what anyone says about praise. The word teaches us that praise is what we are called to do. Be a worshipper in all seasons of your life and watch God touch every circumstance and get the glory He is due.

When It Hurts God Understands

The storms I’ve faced in my life have weighed heavy on my spirit. I have had times where I thought God had forgotten about the troubles I was facing. I watched doors close and the pained piled on. Being misunderstood was an understatement through the maze of hurt.

As I face new struggles I have learned that God is with me and He understands. I often ask God why do we face challenges and as only a Heavenly Father could answer “How would you grow spiritually? How would you be able to lead others to Christ? How would you have a testimony? This is why you face challenges”.

Sometimes we must realize that the suffering we face may set someone else free through our testimony. It may help someone else to understand that they are not alone in the struggles they are facing. God is glorified when we face challenges and He is the only one that can bring us out.

It’s time to stop wrestling with the things you are facing. It’s time to give them to God and let go. The sooner you give it to Him the better you will feel. If He is truly the only one who can bring you out; give the situation to Him because it is bigger than you.

God knows you want to try and fix it but it’s time realize you are making a mess. The situation is getting worse. God does not need your help. He is God all by Himself. He needs you to surrender. As I illustrate this to you it is a reminder for me to surrender and stop wrestling with what is out of my control.

Come to God angry, hurt, offended, frustrated, misunderstood, lied on, rejected, broken, or scared because He understands. Let go and let God do what you can’t. He is our Abba Father. He loves His children. He knows you are hurting. Will you surrender whatever you are facing to Him sooner rather than later? He understands.

“You are of God, little children, and have overcome them because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world”(John 4:4).

God already gave us the victory as believers. We have it because the Holy Spirit lives on the inside of the believer. We may face challenges and people may come against us, but the Spirit in us is greater than the carnal evil spirits in people. It is also greater than the struggles we face in life.

God understands when we have been hurt or wronged that we get angry and become frustrated. His word says “Be angry but sin not” (Ephesians 4:26). God knew we would feel fear but we are to not allow it consume us. God knew we would be anxious. His word says “be anxious for nothing but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving make your request known to God”(Philippians 4:6). The word, prayer, fasting, and godly counsel is how we overcome the struggles we face.

When life seems uncertain find refuge in God because He understands.

“I will say to the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress; my God in Him will I trust” (Psalm 91:2).

“Domestic Violence Awareness: God never intended for us to be manipulated and controlled by anyone”

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. It is symbolized by the color purple or purple ribbon. Domestic violence can happen to anyone. It is most often women and children who become victims of domestic violence. Men are also affected by abuse.

Each year the number of domestic violence cases continues to rise and claims the lives of women and children in record numbers. Being a victim of abuse is highly likely among women of color who live in poverty. It also claims women victims who come from wealth and prestige. Many women and children who are victims endure the abuse in silence, feel helpless, and think there is no way out.

Domestic violence is about power and control. The abuser inflicts his or her will on the victim. It usually starts off with verbal abuse, mind manipulation, and later turns physical. Some abusers never use physical abuse but they verbally assault their victims to establish fear and control.

In the Christian community, many women believe they are bound to domestic violence due to the obligation to their marriage. This is untrue. Being unequally yoked is a sin and a marriage that was not called by God in the first place. God never intended for us to endure an abusive spouse that could one day end our lives.

Domestic violence affects the survivors often for a lifetime even after they are no longer being abused. It changes how they view themselves and how they view relationships. It alters their self-worth and dignity.

Abuse can happen in many relationship dynamics. Parents can abuse children. Children can grow up and abuse elderly parents. Employers can abuse employees. Relationships can appear friendly and then turn into abuse, manipulation, and control.

Many people often view domestic violence as partner abuse. Domestic violence can happen in any relationship dynamic where there is control, manipulation, power, and abuse. Know the warning signs. You should be able to maintain full control of your actions, will, desires, and identity in any relationship. You should never have to change how you carry yourself or be in fear of being you because of being controlled by another individual.

“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, as to being together of the grace of life that your prayers may not be hindered (1 Peter 3:7)”.

“Husbands love your wives and do not be bitter toward them” (Colossians 3:19).

“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy, love does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

God never intended for anyone to be a slave or bonded to another person. Life is sometimes unfair, and people are under the influence of evil spirits and do not see themselves. God loves us unconditionally and when we face these situations at the hands of others, it is not God’s doing, it is the enemy.

Speak up and speak out, especially if you are a survivor. I am a survivor of many forms of abuse. We need to understand many people suffer in silence, think no one cares, and feel they are alone. Help is out there. You can get out. You can survive.

No one has to remain a victim of domestic violence. No control. No manipulation. No abuse. There are no chains holding you or me. Jesus came to set the captives free. This is freedom from all forms of bondage. This is spiritual as well as physical. You are meant to be liberated and free.


Domestic Violence Coalition

North Carolina Domestic Violence Coalition

In the United States, there are domestic violence shelters. Each county in each state will have domestic violence resources and law enforcement work with these agencies. Some agencies provide legal aid but they are limited. Seeking legal assistance can be costly but getting out of an abusive situation is possible. Be encouraged.

Dreaming and Overcoming the Challenges of Life

Have you stopped dreaming because life has been hard and the obstacles keep coming? It’s time to dream again. It’s time to start over. It’s time to let go. When we go through things repeatedly, we may think to stop trying and feel it’s useless to hope for better. This is not true. We go through things because God is the Potter. The situations we face are molding us for the better.

You have to use life as a boxing ring and put your spiritual gloves on and fight. The word says, “we war not against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers, against rulers of darkness in this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in Heavenly places” (Ephesians 6:12). Since the word tells us this it should be no surprise that we face challenges in life.

As you seek spiritual guidance be mindful of who teaches you. A lot of pastors preach prosperity gossip. They make you think you can pay your way out of facing challenges or going through things. This is false, if Jesus went through you must know you will too. Some pastors also make you think following spiritual rules will keep you from facing struggles. This is also false.

There is an abundant life but it’s not about riches and wealth. It’s about living a godly life. God intended for us to build a relationship with Him. Through this relationship he wants us to mature and bring others closer to God.

We must stop being stuck on who left, who didn’t support, who never apologized, and who hurt us. Life is too short to be stuck on things out of our control.

It’s not that I arrived and have mastered the struggles of life, but it is that I strive to grow spiritually. No one is perfect we all make wrong choices. The good thing is every day God breathes life into us is another opportunity to change our lives.

The life we all live was never meant to be easy. Dreaming again may be hard but it’s not impossible. Life can be so difficult that we start to believe we should give up. This is not the answer to your struggles. Put those spiritual boxing gloves on and fight. Try giving life some more swings until you knock down what you are facing like the battle of Jericho (Joshua Chapter 6).

Overcoming what is happening in your life takes strategy. It takes fasting, praying, godly counsel by seasoned believers, faith, patience, endurance, and a relationship with God.

Over the course of my life, I began to understand the power of words. You must speak life over yourself. Don’t take it lightly that what you say to yourself and others has no power because it does. As you try to do life God’s way your biggest weapon is what you say to yourself. “The power of life and death are in the tongue and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Proverbs 18:21).

Another key piece of strategy in overcoming the challenges of life is learning to let things go and not allowing them to overtake us. I have struggled with this for many years. God is working with me on letting go. God knew we would have that struggle but He does not want us to remain stuck.

It’s time to heal from the brokenness many of us may feel. Letting go is not easy and it takes time to realize how long you have been holding on to things and what is the reason you do it. It creates bitterness which can hinder us from moving forward in the purpose God has for us.

As you work on healing from the things that may have you bound remember God is there. He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:8). He is an ever-present help in times of trouble (Psalm 46:1). He is waiting on you to decide you want better for your life. Start dreaming again and ask God to help you endure, overcome, and heal.

God Will Bring You Out

There are times when we wonder where God is in all that we are going through. We may even wonder what we did to cause the pain we feel. God does allow things to happen to us but it’s often the enemy working in other people or the circumstance. God wants us to live free from spiritual hurt, but we must remember Jesus’ suffered as a perfection something we will never measure up to. I won’t say it’s wrong to question the pain we face in life, but we must remember it’s a part of life.

Let’s take a look at the story of Joseph, the visionary. Here we will see pain, but will also see him redeemed from it.

Now when they saw him afar off even before he came near them, they conspired against him to kill him. Then they said to another, “Look, this dreamer is coming! Come therefore, let us now kill him and cast him into some pit; and we shall say, “Some wild beast has devoured him. We shall see what will become of his dreams (Genesis 37:18-20).

We see here the heart of jealousy Joseph’s brothers had because of his God given ability to interpret dreams. Joseph had done nothing to his brothers but the evil in their hearts caused them to turn against him to the point to try and destroy his life. Joseph was a young man in this scripture.

Sometimes this is our story. Someone has taken advantage of us out of wickedness and we have done nothing to deserve it. There are too many people blaming victims for the evil people plot and scheme against other people.

Let’s see God work in Joseph’s life.

Now Joseph had been taken down to Egypt. And Potiphar, an officer of Pharaoh, captain of the guard, an Egyptian, bought him from the Ishmaelites who had taken him down there. The Lord was with Joseph, and he was a successful man; and he was in the house of his master the Egyptian. And the master saw that the lord was with him.

At this point in Genesis Joseph has been thrown into the pit and his father was told that a bear ate him by his manipulative brothers which was a lie. He became a slave and now a servant to Potiphar but God is with him. God is with him so much that his master sees it.

Let this be a lesson to us we can go through things but God is present. Joseph is a servant in another man’s house but God is with him so much the master sees it. Think back to how much God has favored you in unfortunate circumstances. Times where you thought the enemy would win and you would lose. Times where you should have lost your mind and been shut in somewhere.

Let’s look at more struggles for Joseph.

Now Joseph was handsome in form and appearance. And it came to pass after these things that his master’s wife cast longing eyes on Joseph, and she said “Lie with me.” But he refused and said to his master’s wife… “How then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” that she caught him by his garment saying lie with me. But he left his garment in her hand and fled and ran outside. .. The Hebrew servant whom you brought to us came into me to mock me (lie). Then Joseph’s master took him and put him in prison, a place where the king’s prisoners were confined (Genesis 39:6-20).

Set up for Joseph’s redemption.

Then Pharaoh sent and called Joseph and they brought him quickly out of the dungeon; And Pharaoh said to Joseph I have a dream and there is no one to interpret it. Joseph answered Pharaoh saying it is not in me; God will give Pharaoh an answer of peace (Genesis 41:14-16).

Then Pharaoh said to Joseph, Inasmuch as God has shown you all this there is no one discerning as wise as you. You shall be over my house, and all my people shall be ruled according to your word, only in regard to the throne will I be greater than you (Genesis 41:39-40).

Joseph faced many challenges but God had a plan for his life. We must stop focusing on what we see, who left, what we lost, and who betrayed us. God placed the ability to interpret dreams in Joseph. His brothers despised the gift so much that they caused him to struggle. It was that same gift that rose him to power beside the Pharaoh of that era. Joseph probably did not see a way out if the prison but his gift made room for him to be blessed (Proverbs 18:16).

It does not matter how long it takes God will restore what the enemy tried to steal. Keep reading because Joseph will see his brothers again. This time he will be the one that they need.

God loved Joseph past what He was going through. Being in prison was the setup for greater for Joseph. God pruned him for greater. I know the things he faced did not feel good, but they worked out for his good (Romans 8:28). God will do the same in our lives. I know it can be hard, but shift your focus to what God is doing and never give up. God sees what you are going through. He loves you and wants to see you out of the pit and redeemed just like Joseph.

You Can’t Control Everything

I was having a therapy session with my trauma-focused therapist and she said “you do realize you can’t control everything and the only thing you can control is you”. This was not the first time someone said you can’t control everything. This was the first time I was asked did I realize it. My response was “yeah but I still try”. She stated, “that’s insanity you will never be able to control everything”.

It was in this session that I realized I needed to stop trying to control people and everything that happens to me. It was in this session I realized the times when I could not control my abusers something in me sought to control the things I thought I could and I never learned how to balance it. I never learned how to determine distinctly what is under my control and what is not in my control.

There are so many people that are against therapy but with the right therapist, patience, and time you can begin to grow and understand the things that have you stuck. Yes, God can speak to us but sometimes God uses people to get his message to us.

God never intended for us to be able to control everything that happens to us. Yes, it is unfortunate when people take advantage of our trust, and kindness, and inflict their will on us. God knew we would face things like that. It is not a question of why, but a question of how can I heal from it and grow past it.

You have to learn what is in your control and what is or wasn’t. As little children, we have less control and it is never your fault what happens to you. It is your parent’s or guardian’s responsibility to ensure your care and safety as children and adolescent.

Most of us know that that is not always the case. This creates many adults unsure about what they should have been able to control and what was really not their fault or in their control. Sometimes in life, it is what it is. We have to learn that it’s time to heal so we can grow.

We must learn what we can control and what we can’t control. We can control everything we are responsible for. We can’t control other people and what they do with the things they are responsible for. Sounds simple in context but for most of us who have experienced trauma, it isn’t. We want to control everything and everybody.

Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is relinquishing control. Stop worrying about other people and what they do with the things they are responsible for. Stop trying to be God in people’s lives. God has His job under control. Stop wanting people to live their lives like you. Unfortunately, they are not you. You can’t live their life for them, stop trying.

“And above all things have fervent love for one another, for love will cover a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). God intended for us to love one another not control one another. God himself is not in control of us. He showed us that by giving us free will.

Try and remember you can’t control everything.