How Are You Eating?

There are millions of people that struggle with an eating disorder. Many do not know what is happening. The symptoms may be there but can be hard to recognize. We often use terms like “greedy” or “eating too much”. These can be normal, but can also be a sign that you have an eating disorder.

Binge eaters can consume 2,000 to 3,200 calories in a day. 2,000 calories would seem like you made the calorie goal, but these calories were consumed in a matter of a few hours. It makes the person feel exhausted, guilty, shame, and as if they have no control. The truth is there is no control and no formula for when the binge eating episode will happen for most binge eaters.

Currently, a phrase has been coined on social media, food vlogs, and blogs. The phrase is “foodporn” or being a “foodie”. Many people watch reality TV shows like “My 600lb Life”. These phrases and shows overshadow the issues that are really going on for millions of Americans.

Some binge eaters will consume 3,000 to 4,000 calories in a few hours. We see this on “My 600lb Life”. The saddest part about these binge eating issues they could lead to death or physical issues over time. You can choke on all that food sitting in your digestive system if it starts to come back up through your esophagus. We have heard on the show that death has occurred for these individuals.

The truth is that many people struggle with eating disorders that go undiagnosed for years. Also, for some, it may never be diagnosed. This depends on how distorted their view or connection is with food. Also, how disabling it is for the person.

There is support for individuals who suffer from binge eating. Many people learn to manage their binge eating a lot better over time. They may still have episodes because of the years of no diagnosis or treatment. Over time with treatment, these episodes are less frequent and can go away completely. There is a high demand for eating disorder specialists in the US. Access to specialists who treat eating disorders is limited though the demand is high.

Staying fit and active often helps curve the issues with weight and weight gain for binge eaters. Many fail to manage a healthy weight due to battling issues tied to binge eating like, depression, anxiety, shame, and guilt.

Also, some binge eaters may realize they have an obsession with food. Some signs are a person always stating “I’m hungry”, I’m hungry” but have just eaten. This becomes an issue if a short time has passed since their last meal. It takes approximately four hours to digest a single meal.

If you face the issue of not actually knowing when you are hungry or just have an urge to eat that is a problem. Being hungry means you have had the absence of food in your body for an extended period of time. It also means your body is in need of food or fuel to function. The urge to eat means you have food in your body or enough fuel to function, but you have the urge or a desire to eat.

National Eating Disorders Association Eating Disorder Resources

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The Value of a Mother

Warm and cuddly when we are young

Should be our provider and protector

Stands up for us over the course of our lives

Builds us up when life beats us down

Surrounds us with love and guidance

If we are daughters teaches us how to be God-fearing women

Teaches us how to mother our children

Is our example of how to be a grandmother and elder of the family

Leaves a legacy of motherhood and a footprint of love for years to come

Bruised by Life

We all come to a point in life where we feel bruised by the struggles of our past. It can make us feel overwhelmed and stuck. We can feel like we are too broken or damaged to ever be whole. The healing process can seem impossible.

I must admit that the struggles of my past often have a hold on me. It’s like fighting to shed skin or an open wound that just won’t heal. As I blog week after week it helps me just as much as I hope it helps my readers. The truth is God is always refining us. He works on us through the pains of life.

There are some other truths about the things in life that bruise or hurt us. You can’t always spend life wondering how you could have made different choices. There is no fixing the past.

Starting over can seem impossible, but it’s a part of life. Doing the same thing and expecting a different result is like a rat running on a wheel going nowhere. Our failures don’t define us they mature us if we let them.

It may feel like, life has been so hard, but you should not accept the state you are in. Though you may feel that way, it is not true. I lost a lot a few years ago. If I had thought that was it for me, you would not be reading my blog. You have to keep working on yourself. Never give up. When you think it’s over God has a way of turning things around.

Life can hurt but you get stronger in the push and pull of life. Remember to keep God at the center of your life no matter what is going on. I am sure Jesus knew it would be the greatest pain to endure the cross. Despite the pain and bruises, He knew it was a part of the call on His life.

The things we go through are a part of our journey and the call on our lives. We all have our crosses to bear but just like Jesus, we are not bound by them. We will rise with all power.

There was a time when taking my life seemed like the answer to the pain I felt. I am so glad today I lived to let someone know the bruises of life hurt, but God redeems. It still gets hard. Life doesn’t stop.

There were even times when I thought my dreams were washed up. God showed me I will use what you have left (2 Kings 4:1-7). He said when you feel like it’s over that’s when I use you to do my best work.

The bruises of life can seem like they are wounds that won’t heal, but with time they do. God is an ever-present help and He does not need you to have it all together (Psalm 46:1).

Remember the bruises of life do heal. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

Live to Heal from Brokenness

The brokenness some of us feel from the tragedies of life can feel like an elephant sitting on our chest. We can find ourselves wondering if we will ever heal. Healing is not something that happens overnight. It takes years of working to be free from so many broken areas.

Some people believe they will just snap out of the hurt. The reality is that it takes time. It can take years to fully heal. You really have to work on yourself. One part of the healing process is recognizing that there are areas of brokenness in your life.

Brokenness is not a bad thing or something to be ashamed of. We all get broken by life. We all have been broken in some area or another. Some of us live our lives not healing. We are often are so broken that we self-sabotage the things in our lives that matter.

We may hurt the very people that want to love us. We also can be in survival mode all the time. Sometimes we have walls built up around us and live in fear of being hurt again.

You can begin your healing process in therapy. Counseling is one way to uncover the areas that need healing. Finding the right therapist can be a challenge but once you have found your match it can be a blessing.

Healing with people who have had similar experiences is also healthy. You can find these groups in your community.

If you have had issues with domestic violence, for example, you can reach out to a local agency and see if they offer a support group. Sometimes healing can be easier when you realize you are not alone in your hurt.

It is also a great way to meet new people and make new friends. Some of us can find support groups in our local church. I always believe the church is a spiritual hospital and often helps a lot of us get through life.

When you are hurt and need to heal, try not to make decisions based on brokenness. We have all done it. I have not arrived but I strive to be better one day at a time.

Healing from brokenness is not an easy feat. It takes time, patience, and a willingness to heal and not remain stuck. As life takes its course we can easily find ourselves broken and struggling to heal. No one is exempt from these struggles. Over time healing does happen.

You need a safe space to heal. You need people in your life that do not continue to keep you bound. Freedom is found in God. No matter what Jesus’ Resurrection is liberty and freedom from anything we face. Brokenness does not have to remain a constant reminder of the pain we felt from being hurt.

Live to heal, one day and step at a time.

God Is Able

God prevails when we give the troubles of this world to Him. It is hard to master. We all want to control more than we actually are capable of. The hardest part in hard times is letting go and letting God do His best work.

God understands that in life there are losses no matter how hard we try to perfect our lives. There are no troubles too hard for God though in our limited abilities we may feel crushed.

I learned recently that being still and letting God work is best at times. We often make a mess of things when we try to do it our way. Being disobedient to God can bring negative consequences.

“Be still and know that I am God (Psalm 46:10)”. In this scripture God is saying He is able. He illustrates for us to trust Him. He wants us to be still and allow God to work in our lives. Being still can mean doing nothing even in troubling times. When we give things to God we have to leave it there.

The scripture goes on to say that God will be exalted above the heathen and in the Earth. God is higher than any of the troubles we face. There is nothing God can’t help us overcome.

Our God is able to move mountains out of our lives. Keep pressing there is greater on the other side.

Life Hurts Sometimes

The troubles of life hurt

The decisions we make don’t always work

Depending on God is the source of our strength

When life seems unbearable pull from God’s fortress

Life hurts sometimes

No matter what life brings press through the rain

Work with God to get through the pain

The etched memory of our past hurts but trouble doesn’t last

Our eternal resting place is worth more than issues of our past

No matter what with God all things are possible to work

Even though life hurts

Press Toward the Higher Mark

We often pray for better and wish for better, but our pressing should include a strong foundation in a relationship with God. We should also be concerned about our eternal resting place. It is important to know that there is a place far greater than the troubles we face day to day.

“Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward and to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus (Philippians 3:12-14)”.

Paul teaches us that as anointed as he was, he had not arrived. Though Paul had not arrived he kept on pressing. Paul endured a lot. Before his encounter with God he persecuted Christians. He also went on a journey during his encounter with God on the road to Damascus (Acts 9:1-9) These things did not stop Him from striving to do what God called him to do. He was preparing to be with God eternally.

Pressing higher and seeking God’s purpose can be hard. God orders our steps when we seek Him and allow Him to work in our lives. There is more to life than what we want. What God wants for us is more important.

Life throws many curves and road blocks. It can feel like we will never reach what we know God has called us to. We can began to feel we are too broken to do what God is asking of us. When we look at Paul we are looking at an anointed man who faced many moments of brokenness and hardships. Eventhough this is true he continued to teach and write God’s word for who he was called to.

Pressing through life is a challenge for all of us. Life does not stop for anyone. No matter how much money you have or how spiritual you might be hard times will come. As things happen to us we can begin to feel like pressing through life is worthless.

Paul did not allow his past or his current situation to determine his walk with God. No matter what we go through we must keep our eyes on God. Paul was not saying pressing was easy. He was saying he pressed no matter the circumstances.

No matter the struggle press toward the higher mark God is calling you to. God has greater on the other side.

Love with Godly Love

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

How many conditions have you put on the way you love others? Well with God there are no conditions or limits to how He loves. He shows no respect of persons (Romans 2:11). We love because God first loved us (1 John 4:19). There is no partiality with God (Acts 10:34).

The next question is how do we measure up to loving that way? The truth of the matter is we can’t. We are covered in flesh and it is a constant battle of offenses that often separate us from those we really love.

Though we should love unconditionally most of us struggle to do so. There is refuge in trying to love with godly love and understanding you won’t do it with perfection.

There will be times when those we care about make it easy to love them. There will be other times when the person we are trying to love, we fight to love them. What do we do in those times? We trust God to give us the strength to love them as best we can.

Jesus never came to condemn the world. His ministry was for the lost, spiritually bound, and those who felt separated from God (John 3:17). As we try to love others with godly love we must remember we are limited. Sometimes it can be a fight to love those who are broken.

The love that Jesus showed on calvary we can never measure up to. All we can do is strive to give a piece of that to our friends, loved ones, and surprisingly even our enemies.

The way we love is founded in our relationship with God. We must understand that as we get closer to God loving others with godly love is strengthened.

Godly love is love that gives space for God to use us to be a light to others. No matter the offenses as believers we are the example of how to love with godly love. Yes, it is hard, but loving with godly love grows as we grow and mature in Christ.

Give yourself grace, you will not be perfect in it, but strive to love with godly love.โค๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’ž

Black History

Black history is a history to be honored by society. It is true that when we forget or don’t know our history we are doomed to repeat it. We have struggled to keep the puzzle of our history intact. Many other culture have a different view of their history. Also, it wasn’t trampled on and attempted to be destroyed throughout societal history.

No matter whether society acknowledges it or not black history has been being dismantled across generation after generation. I would like to hope we can sustain a puzzle with so many missing puzzle pieces.

The power of putting the missing pieces of black history together is education. We must not let the legacy of black trail blazers die. This generation and the generations behind us are the legacy of black history.

Telling the stories of black culture is always a sensitive narrative to tell. We grow as a society when we acknowledge that it is a broken narrative. Black history will always be important to our society no matter how broken our stories may be.

The more we celebrate black history the more it keeps our history alive. Remember the generations now and after us are our legacy.

Black History Month ๐Ÿ–ค๐ŸคŽ

God Opens Doors

When doors close in our lives we may wonder when God will open the door He promised. There is a desire for God to work in our lives how we see fit. The problem with that is we limit God or put Him in a box. God is limitless. It can seem like the door He promised us will never open. That’s the time He pushes us into what He had in mind.

Time after time God shows us through His word that He opens doors. He gave Abraham the ram in the bush (Genesis 22:13). He rose Joseph to power after a trail of unfortunate circumstances rooted in the jealousy of Joseph’s brothers (Genesis 41:39-41). He made David king when many felt David was just a little shepherd boy (1 Samuel 16:13). Jesus was crucified and now He is our High Priest (Hebrews 4:14-16).

God’s will in our lives is about Him closing doors that hinder where He is trying to take us. The doors that remain open may keep us from the path He has for us. His goal is to position us into the purpose He has for us.

Waiting is another important piece of the puzzle. We do not want to get ahead of God and wander aimlessly around. There is a need to be patient enough for God to move.

There are no popcorn answers with God. Which is something today’s generation is hindered by. Getting fruit out of season doesn’t have the seasoned taste we love. With this said getting things out of God’s timing can be a hindrance and we can fail to maintain the things we acquire.

It’s not just about opening doors, but allowing God to close doors that no longer benefit us spiritually. In order for doors to open some doors must close. We want to move forward but fear God closing doors. It is a part of the process.

Matthew 7:7-8 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you”.

It’s important to want God to open doors in His timing. It may take a while but like fruit picked in season oh how good will things work out for us (Romans 8:28).

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